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Wedding Day Remembrances

Happy Friday, my lovelies! Today’s advice post is a little less cheerful, but deals with something that unfortunately affects many brides and grooms as they organise their weddings. I know what it’s like to lose someone you love, and it is just the worst. Whether it’s a recent loss in the run-up to your big day, or someone long-missed whose absence is especially felt on big occasions, many of you will have a parent, one or more grandparents, a sibling or an old friend on your minds. And while a wedding is the happiest of occasions, it’s also a celebration of history and community, and I think an important time to acknowledge those who are part of that history, whether or not they are still around. But how to include a tribute without lessening the joy? Read more

Planning Your Wedding With Pinterest

Image: Judy Pak Photography via Style Me Pretty (from the Bridesmaids board on SBB’s Pinterest)

Happy Friday, friends! I’m writing to you from my sick bed, all struck down in the pribe of libe (as they’d say in Friends), so you’ll forgive me if today’s post is a little late! But I wanted to share with all of you (especially those with your newly minted Valentine proposals) how Pinterest can be a great little tool to use in your wedding planning, and give you a little tour of the SBB Pinterest page. Let’s go!

The truth is, you’ve probably already heard of Pinterest. You may have been using it already, to pin food or interiors – hell, you may even have been pinning wedding stuff long before the proposal. In just a couple of years, Pinterest has become part of our daily web lives, and the good news is that it really comes into its own when it comes to weddings. So you’ll definitely want to use it to its full capacity. Read more

Wedding Dates to Avoid {Free Printable}

 

Hello friends! I have a fun little bonus post for you today. For those of you who have just got engaged, I bet there are lots of spreadsheets being drawn up and calendars being got out of handbags, to find the perfect date for your big day. Lots of things to consider – birthdays, travel plans, public holidays, getting time off work. But there’s one thing you may not have taken into account yet. Rugby. Read more

Downloadable Worksheet: Venue Planning

Source: Ine & Riaan’s Wedding at Clouds Estate (Photography: Lauren Kriedemann)

Hello friends! Aren’t you glad the first Friday of 2013 is almost done? I know I am, but this weekend I’ll be working away to bring you fantastic content for the coming week, and make some changes and tweaks behind the scenes. We’ll be returning to our normal blog schedule on Monday, so expect the usual set of inspiration boards, real weddings, couple shoots, styled shoots, etc. Can’t wait! First though, I have some practical help for those of you just starting on your planning journey. Read more

Downloadable Worksheet: Bridesmaid’s Emergency Kit

Source: Ilne & Herman by Heather Steyn 

Hello lovelies! I have something useful for you this evening, as many of you enter the final run up to your weddings. Something new I have been working on (in line with your recent requests for more practical posts) is downloadable worksheets (my educational publisher side coming out!). Those of you who subscribe to the newsletter will already know this, as you get first bite of the apple, but soon we’ll have a section for these on the website as well.

Source: Tom and Marguerite

Today I’ve updated my popular bridesmaid’s emergency kit post to create a checklist that you can easily print off and give to you MoH, or use as a shopping list for yourself. Easy peasy!

Download the checklist here.

 

PS For more awesome bridesmaid advice, check out this recent post.

 

Guest Post: The Bridesmaid’s Duties

Source: Joy & Dylan’s Simon’s Town Wedding (Photography: Nastassja Harvey)

Good morning, friends! It’s been a long and crazy week for me, including an amazing shoot with such a great team mid-week that I am dying to share with you (in the words of Barney Stinson… wait for it…) so I’m pretty glad it’s Friday. And what a fun Friday we have lined up for you, as it’s our unofficial Bridesmaid Day! We’re kicking things off with some comprehensive, down-to-earth advice from friend of the blog Theresa Lazarevic of Creation Events.. I love that Theresa not only has a great eye for decor that really benefits her brides and grooms, but she’s also a source of wedding wisdom and practical ideas. I like to think I’ve always been quite a switched-on bridesmaid, but I know many friends who have felt a bit lost in knowing their place in the planning and what they can do to help and support. Well, here’s everything they need to know. Be sure to make use of the sharing buttons at the end of the post to share these with your own bridesmaids and MOH! And don’t forget to pop back later for more bridesmaid inspiration from our sponsors. Read more

Guest Post: How to Choose a Venue

Source: Mehtap & Paul’s Tintswalo Atlantic Wedding (Photography: Zarazoo)

Hey hey, it’s Friday! And it’s the best kind of day for me, as I’ll be heading over to Cambridge as you read this so I can attend my lovely friends Kerenza & Matt’s wedding. Yay! Not only do I love weddings, but Kez and Matt are the loveliest. Anyway, never fear, because not only do I have a lovely bonus inspiration board for you this afternoon, but this morning I’ll be leaving you in the very capable hands of my friend Theresa of Creation Events. Theresa is a full service wedding c0-ordinator based in Cape Town, and as one of our treasured SBB sponsors, I’ve been keeping a close eye on what she’s been doing this season. Recently, Theresa has been sharing her extensive expertise in planning on her own blog in a series of ‘how  to’ posts, and I’ve convinced her to share one of them exclusively with you here today. And it couldn’t be a more important one, since the venue is the cornerstone for any design you are going to put together, and probably the first thing you’ll book after saying ‘yes’. Over to you, Theresa! Read more

A SouthBound Guide to Veil-speak

Hello friends – almost home time! How many of you will be heading for dress shopping expeditions or fittings this weekend, I wonder? So exciting! To help you when it comes to accessories, I’ve put together a little guide for you to the different terms used to describe wedding veils. Yep, I bet you thought there were maybe one or two, but think again. There are actually lots of options for brides, depending on your dress style and length (and colour!) and the general look and feel you are going for on your big day. Of course, you may not feel that you want to wear a veil at all, but if you do, read on!

VEIL LENGTHS

Birdcage veils are the shortest length, and have enjoyed huge popularity in the last few years. There’s quite a bit of variety within birdcage veils (for advice on these different options and how to rock them, check out this article from the SBB archive) but they’re usually worn just covering the eyes or extending down to the chin. Super stylish and low-hassle. Read more

Book Extract {The Irreverent A-Z Wedding Guide: South Africa}

SURNAME

Changing your surname is, of course, a decision specific to the individual in question. You may love him with all your heart but becoming Mrs Bottom just isn’t going to happen. Or perhaps you are so excited about becoming Mrs Bottom – because you’re currently Ms Poo – that you’ve already started working on your new signature. The good news is there’s no time limit when changing your name, so if you’re not comfortable doing it just yet you don’t have to.

THE FIVE SURNAME OPTIONS
1. No change. You decide to remain Sandy Poo. No admin.
2. You take your husband’s name. You become Sandy Bottom. You need to change your name with all organisations. They will require photo ID and your marriage certificate to do this.
3. Hyphenate. Now you’re Sandy Poo-Bottom. Again, you need to tell all organisations you belong to, providing your ID and marriage certificate.
4. Adding husband’s name with no hyphen. Sandy Poo Bottom. As above.
5. Create a new name. Your husband agrees that Bottom just isn’t cutting it, for the sake of your unborn children. You create a new name together: Boo, say. In order to do this, you both need to go to a lawyer and have your name changed. Once that is done you need to change your name at all the organisations that you both belong to. Cue IDs, Home Affairs paperwork and marriage certificate. Hey, you’ve just organised a wedding; you can handle admin. Read more

Entrance Music

I’ve been wanting to talk to you all about entrance music for some time, ever since I spent an evening discussing this with an engaged friend recently. iPhone and earphones were dragged out to prove my point. And now I’m going to prove it to you. Er, I hope.


{Image: Nielen Bottomley from Amy & James’ wedding}

Thing is, weddings are (to some degree) theatre. Not in the sense that they should be fake or melodramatic, but rather that they showcase real emotion in a way that translates to the guests. They’re a way of bringing other people into your relationship to feel what you feel for one another, if just for one day. And as an actor will tell you, a great theatrical production requires one thing: a great entrance. I actually learnt this lesson from my friend Nikki. When she married the lovely Brendon some years ago, they chose Nessun Dorma for her entrance. Nix wanted to walk in at that crucial moment when the music swelled and Pavarotti sang “Vincero! Vincero! Vincero!” And I’ll be honest, I thought it was a little dramatic, especially since it’s a long song and we had a very, very short aisle. Seriously okes, that aisle took five steps to walk up, no matter how much you dragged your feet. But I was her bridesmaid, so it was my job to say “Great idea!” and make it happen. So we worked out the exact moment when the other bridesmaid and I were to walk in so that Nikki got her moment. And it would have been brilliant. The song would have built, quietly, in the little church. Then suddenly, the doors would have flung open to the summer day outside, and we would have walked down the aisle, with Nix following as the music built to a crescendo. Read more